A 16y/o daughter … up for adoption??? Joke? No ……

Did you hear the one about the homophobes who wanted to adopt out their lesbian daughter?


ROB WATSON Dad, LGBT activist, businessman and blogger, evoL =


Jokes are supposed to be funny.

They always start with a set up and then build to a crescendo where the plot twists and the listener bursts out laughing. Last week a “joke” went viral, but no one was left laughing.

The “joke” was an article titled, “Parents put 16-year-old daughter up for adoption after learning she is gay.”

It came from a site called “The Memoirs of DEACON Tyson Bowers III”, and had previous iterations on the Daily Bleach and Christwire.

The site it came from had other “credible” material such as “Kentucky man sues mother for not aborting him,” “Dangers of Pride Week, “Study: Lesbians more likely to eat fish,” “African American scientist invents synthetic watermelon,” and “Gays building secret penile shaped resort island.”

The piece was written as humor…satire… but none of the 72,000 who shared it took it that way.  They believed it to be real.

Who could blame them? The article described the mindset of a homophobic couple from “Southern Carolina” who upon learning their daughter was “gay,” sought to put her up for adoption.  Those who believed the story did so because even though it was fake, the mindset itself is painfully and horrifically real.

The story sped through Facebook and pages posted it, in most cases temporarily, only to take it down again with the apology that they had fallen for the hoax.

The most heart wrenching thing to observe were the sweet souls who were willing to step up to help.  Numerous people sought more information because they actively were looking to adopt the abandoned teen in question.

Here is some news for them, and for those of you who cared about the 16-year-old girl in the fake story: She exists.

The story was bogus, the situation was a lie, but she is the truth. She is 16 and 15 and 14. She is male, she is female and she is transgender.  Her parents did not try to adopt her out… they simply kicked her out, and slammed the door behind her.

“She” is our homeless LGBT youth.

She not only exists, she makes up to 40% of the total of all homeless teens, even though LGBT teens make up only 3 percent of the total population.

Writer Cathy Kristofferson researched and wrote an important piece in which she paints an accurate and urgent portrait of the LGBT homeless teen.

Of the disproportionate rate she states, “Simple. Youth who come out to their parents are rejected by those parents at a rate of 50%, with 26% immediately thrown out of the house to become instantly homeless and many following soon after as a result of the physical and verbal abuse that ensues after their declaration.”

Empowered by the gains in equality and acceptance with the heightened visibility the adult gay community has welcomed of late, youth are emboldened to come out at ever-younger ages while still reliant on parents who are a flip of the coin away from rejecting them.

Simple factors of 4 tell the story of parental rejection and its effect on queer youth homelessness:

  • 2 out of 4 will be rejected by their parents when they come out;
  • 1 out of 4 will be kicked out by their parents when they come out;
  • 3 out of 4 homeless queer youth will say parent objections to their orientation led to their homelessness.

Youth homelessness is bad enough on its own but being queer further compounds the difficulties.  Devastating statistics like 62% of queer homeless youth attempt suicide only begin to tell the story of the additional hardship endured when compared with their heterosexual counterparts.

Queer youth experiencing homelessness are:

  • 3 times more likely to commit suicide, and 8 times more likely due to parental rejection;
  • 3 times more likely to turn to prostitution and survival sex;
  • 6 times higher incidents of mental health and substance abuse issues;
  • 7 times more likely to experience sexual violence at a much higher risk of victimization by rape, robbery and assault.

So, yes.  There was an article passed around the other day, and thousands were rightly outraged and cared.

The article was a fraud, but your feelings and mine were not.  We need to not focus on the tomfoolery of the internet and focus instead on the WHY, the reason behind our feelings.

The WHY is that there are real kids out there that need not only our indignation, but our action.

Last Christmas, I suggested reaching out to them in the spirit of the season.  Now I am suggesting it in the spirit of what is right.

If you wanted to adopt the 16-year-old in the story, find the real her and adopt her.  If you wanted to send money, start a program, get involved, please do it.  If you felt passion around it, please channel that passion into action.

If we don’t, then the unreal story becomes real.  It becomes an allegory for the progressive community who chose to adopt out its youth in need.  We are better than that.

Let’s not have the next viral story be ours.

Rob Watson is a gay father of two, LGBT activist, businessman and blogger.
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About Dr. Rex

I'm originally from Puerto Rico. I was born in Santurce and raised in Rio Piedras. Have lived in Florida since 1999. I have a doctorate degree in Medicine; completed in 1976. My Internal Medicine specialty was completed in 1979. Worked for Puerto Rico's health system until 1985. At this time, I'm happily retired after working for the federal government for almost 28yrs. I want to offer any knowledge that I have to anyone "out there" who is interested. My views are liberal in almost every sense. My knowledge is "eclectic" - a bit of everything. Music and reading are my passion. Blogging has also become a very interesting endeavor. Metaphysical topics attract me. I'm interested in news reporting human issues like injustice, discrimination and abuse - the "wrongly" affected. My intention is to bring this knowledge to an understandable level and to help anyone in need. I'm open to questions and will answer them to the best of my ability. Currently working on an enterprise whose main mission will be to bring peoples of all walks of life together. To be one .... since we ALL are ONE!! The future looks bright and promising!!!

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