In Memoriam …. “๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ Lijda van der Louw-Elbertsen …. ‘Heaven has a New Angel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ …. “!!


~~October 15, 2020~~

โ€œGone from our sight, but never from our hearts.โ€

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Through the wonderful world of blogging (which I embarked upon about 7 years ago, after my retirement. I met this wonderful guy who lives in The Netherlands. It seems like it was yesterday. Martin was always there with messages of encouragement, sincere and true friendship, future plans. Through him, I ‘met’ Lijda, his forever companion, his wife.

Their love story is like no other!

Years of communicating through this web we traverse daily led to a sincere connection and brotherhood/sisterhood.

Martin is my ‘brother from another mother’.

Today, Martin lost Lijda to physical ailments and conditions which she was unable to conquer. It’s my desire to do a bit here to honor this “Lady in Red“.

For Martin and for Lijda …. here goes!

HortyRexยฉ

Monday – June 10th 1996 – N.O.I.Z Homeless shelter Utrecht – 7:00PM

“I am sitting in the office, getting ready to take over from the evening shift to run the night watch. There had been a music festival in town so instead of going home, I had decided to go to the shelter early and crash in the office until my shift would start. I was reading the daily log when outside the window I heard two voices. I knew those voices. They belonged to two of our female guests. Two young ladies both in their late 20โ€™s early 30โ€™s (although they have sworn for years they were 21).

The youngest of the two was Danielle. A hip little smartass that was very capable of finding her way in the jungle of the streets. โ€œI got a love letter from Johnโ€ she said to the other woman.

โ€œI never get a love letter from anyoneโ€ the other woman sighed. The other woman was named Lijda, and the impulsive decision I took at that moment would change my life.

Running a night watch in the shelter was easy for me, I knew all the rules (I actually made them but that is another story) and what was needed to have a quiet night and smooth transition to morning shift. I did my laundry and coffee and walked my rounds. And then had loads of free time, so I took pen and paper and I started to write.

Nowโ€ฆ I might be impulsive, I am not an idiot. Even then, you had to be careful how to bring things. So I started the letter very dry ow I had overheard the conversation and had decided to surprise her with a genuine love letter … In the spirit of her having one finally. Stupid move in hindsight but ok.

Then I released the Kraken on her. I pulled every clichรฉ, promised her the moon and the stars, took her on trips to paradise โ€ฆ that kind of letter. After I finished it, I wrote a small p.s telling her that, ok she knew the reason for writing, but if she despite that was interested in maybe a date …

I asked her to marry me two months later, we married 3 years after we got a relationship, 3 years and a day actually.

~Martin~

I do not know what to say. She’s not doing well. I’m afraid I’ll lose it. I’ve prayed and cursed, cried and screamed. I have asked God and the devil for answers. They are not there, it remains silent.

When I came to Lijda today, there was a team around her. I had to wait outside for a while before I was called. Moments later the ward doctor came but instead of answers questions came. Questions that I cannot answer as we no longer live together. There was a suspicion of an epileptic seizure but investigations had to be done and actually they had no idea.

I was allowed to stay with her and she was sleeping. I sat with her for a few minutes until a few specialists came (including a neurologist). I was able to talk to her for a while and I feel that she has heard and answered me.

I was able to tell her how much I love her, how proud I am of her. I was able to tell her she is strong and she can beat this.

I hope she believes me because I’m so terrified.

Dear friends and family,

Unfortunately I had to leave the hospital. I’m completely exhausted both mental and physically. A good friend of ours watches over Lijda. I was there the moment Lidja closed her eyes forever. For now, she hasn’t given up, she is so much stronger than I will ever be,

I hate that I’m gone but I need to be fresh and clear to do her well out later.

Lijda … forgive me!

She is my love, my light. Without her, I am nothing.

~~Published April 22, 2020~~

For My Lady

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About Dr. Rex

I'm originally from Puerto Rico. I was born in Santurce and raised in Rio Piedras. Have lived in Florida since 1999. I have a doctorate degree in Medicine; completed in 1976. My Internal Medicine specialty was completed in 1979. Worked for Puerto Rico's health system until 1985. At this time, I'm happily retired after working for the federal government for almost 28yrs. I want to offer any knowledge that I have to anyone "out there" who is interested. My views are liberal in almost every sense. My knowledge is "eclectic" - a bit of everything. Music and reading are my passion. Blogging has also become a very interesting endeavor. Metaphysical topics attract me. I'm interested in news reporting human issues like injustice, discrimination and abuse - the "wrongly" affected. My intention is to bring this knowledge to an understandable level and to help anyone in need. I'm open to questions and will answer them to the best of my ability. Currently working on an enterprise whose main mission will be to bring peoples of all walks of life together. To be one .... since we ALL are ONE!! The future looks bright and promising!!!

5 thoughts on “In Memoriam …. “๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ Lijda van der Louw-Elbertsen …. ‘Heaven has a New Angel ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ …. “!!

  1. Horty, You have taken time to tell the story of Martin & Lijda, start to finish, with that wonderful tribute video of Lijda. And with love stories such as theirs, there really is no “finish” to a love that will live for all of Martin’s forever & for Lijda & Martin together some day in Paradise. Thank you, Horty. Your assignment well done. Love, Phil

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    • Thx so much!! I started โ€˜collectingโ€™ his comments as he wrote them. I needed to do this for him. This loss is huge … he was living in his own for a while when she deteriorated. But heโ€™ll feel the void she left now. I have to stick with him. Thereโ€™s no one like Martin!! ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ๐Ÿ˜ข

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      • Horty, You are so right. There is no one like Martin. Just one example was when he tuned in with us to watch Kathleen Elle. Martin’s presence was so enthusiastic, spontaneous with his participation requesting songs from Kathleen & commenting. Martin is real & loving without inhibition. That’s why people like you & me love Martin right back!!! I have no doubt that Martin will do something with his love of Lijda…..some kind of nonprofit dedicated to just the right cause to fit the love of Lijda & Martin. Phil

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