In the wake of the unthinkable tragedy in Orlando, Melissa Etheridge found herself processing her pain with a guitar and pen in hand. And out of darkness, she brought a beautiful song entitled “Pulse” into the world.
But “Pulse” isn’t just a song, it’s a message of love, an anthem of understanding and a call to forgiveness.
Melissa shared this beautiful moment with us on stage the other night, and we wanted to share her message of love with all of you. We could all use a good cry right now…and a reminder that we are all in this together.
“I think musicians … I think our job is to heal, our job is to put all those emotions in something and send it out and give it a place to where we can all…just breathe…and understand that we’re all humans and we all have a pulse.”
A very good friend once told me the perfect analogy.
You have a crystal goblet, made of the finest blown Murano glass. This is one of your finest possessions. You value its beauty but most likely its sentimental value is priceless.
If it falls and brakes into pieces you may be able to put it back together.
However, even though it may be almost the same, there will always be signs and marks of where it broke and where you glued it together.
“One of the pillars of a relationship — whether it’s with family or friends — is trust.
Trusting relationships will encourage family and friends to spend more quality time with you. Building trust also fosters positive communication among family and friends. Whereas negative communication or no communication at all demonstrates mistrust. If you are new to a family or friendship or you are trying to repair a broken relationship, there are steps you can take to help them learn how to trust you.”
~~MY POINT HERE IS DIRECTED TO FRIENDSHIPS~~
Step 1
Communicate your feelings genuinely with family members. Expressing your individuality helps your loved ones learn to trust who you are, according to a Utah State University program designed to strengthen family ties. If you are honest about how you feel in all situations, your loved ones can learn to trust your words whether they agree with what you say or not. Use tact when expressing yourself so that you can avoid any unnecessary hurt feelings.
Step 2
Use active listening skills when your family and friends talk to you. Knowing that you are truly listening helps build trust because active listening demonstrates that you care about their words. Active listening skills include making eye contact, refraining from interrupting and occasionally nodding your head. Use phrases such as “I understand” and reflect what they say when they make a point.
Step 3
Keep your promises. Following through with your promises demonstrates dependability, which fosters trust in relationships with family and friends. If you have to break a promise, make sure you have a reasonable explanation for doing so.
Step 4
Become altruistic. Families tend to have more positive relationships when members act altruistically, which is defined as performing actions for others with no regard to personal benefit. Helping your family or friends in an emergency situation is an example of altruism. When family and friends see you go out of your way for them, they can count on you to be there for them.
Have you made mistakes and had learned from it and tried to move on or are you always on the same destructive path? You have control of your own life …. learn from your mistakes … no one can dictate to you what you can or cannot do … live life to the fullest and always smile and be happy ….
