~~June 11, 2014~~
Many a’times events have happened in my life .. personal and professional. I have believed that I’ve been wronged one way or another. I know that, after the event, I expected more. Then again, it’s all personal perception. Talking about these issues with some friends and co-workers helps. They have confirmed that an apology is indicated.
However, there are plenty of times in which an apology will never come. There will always be this sensation of void … there will always be the need to hear “I’m sorry” from those who you feel have somehow wronged you.
Life has taught me that sometimes that apology will never come.
Maybe others don’t feel that they have done anything deserving of an apology. This is when one needs to learn that the apology will never come your way.
That’s when life becomes life gets easier. Learn to accept that.
Don’t hold your breath.
An apology is an expression of remorse for something you’ve done wrong, and occasionally serves as a request for forgiveness, as well.
Apologizing for a mistake might seem like an impossible task, but you can get through it by swallowing your pride and putting your best foot forward.
Dr. Gary Chapman is the author of several books, including The Five Love Languages and The Five Languages of Apology.
Either you’re truly sorry or you’re not. I got over it and we briefly resumed the relationship, but sometimes you have to let bygones be bygones… and then BE GONE.
~~The five languages of apology described in the book~~
If the person you’ve hurt has this language, they want to know “Do you understand how deeply your behavior has hurt me?” You need to say you are sorry and what specifically you are sorry for.
If the person you apologize to has this apology language, they want you to accept responsibility for what you did or said and acknowledge that it was wrong.
If someone has this apology language, what they really want to know is “do you still love me?” Your behavior seemed so unloving to them that they wonder how you could love them and do what you did.
~Genuinely expressing the desire to change your behavior~
When this is someone’s apology language, if your apology does not include a desire to change your behavior, you have not truly apologized. Whatever else you say, they do not see it as being sincere.
If you offend someone who has this apology language, the words “will you please forgive me?” are the words they want to hear. Requesting forgiveness is the way to touch their heart and is the way that feels sincere to them.
~R&B Love Song Instrumental Beat “I’m Sorry” 2013~
~Published on Sep 5, 2013~
Inspiration: “Listen To Your Heart”
We ALL are ONE!!